Well, this is very exciting.
You may have already seen my previous book, The First Ten Letters: Secrets of Universe Hiding in Plain Sight, which I decided not to write a post about because, while it’s big on the Frum part, it’s not so relevant to the Counselor part.
But now I’ve written a professional book which is high on Counselor, and, while admittedly low on Frum, is still very shayach to our community needs there. (See what I did there? A bit of yeshivish makes everything more frum.)
This new book is called The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted. It is written for general audiences, but is absolutely appropriate for Jewish couples. It’s all about, well, communication for couples. And there’s no question we could all use a little more work on that.
Look, shalom bayis is of huge importance, we all know that. And while we get a lot of high-level talks and shiurim on the concept, we just don’t get enough of the nuts and bolts we need to get there. Gemara doesn’t offer a lot of guidance on how to talk to your spouse about the tricky stuff that comes up in marriage.
So, while you won’t find any Chazals in this book, you’ll find a lot of really clear, step-by-step instructions on how to get on the same page as your spouse. You’ll find a bunch of case studies and examples of things that work and things that don’t. You’ll find a lot of ideas that will be immediately useful and actionable.
Geshmak, right? 😀
Here’s a little more information about the book (full disclosure: this is just the text from the back cover):
Does this sound like your marriage?
You and your spouse can’t communicate without it turning into an argument
You’re walking on eggshells whenever there’s a problem to talk about
You get into fights that should never have happened – then can’t even remember what the fight was about
You’ve had enough stress and conflict. Enough fights that go nowhere. It’s time for a change. Time for more communication, more connection, and more love. You can learn to communicate with each other.
In this book, you’ll discover:
Clear, practical instructions on how to communicate with your partner
The words to use and the words to avoid for proven results
How to listen to your partner to ensure that they feel heard
The one thing you need to know before trying to talk about anything
And much more!
“Accessible, full of wisdom, vivid examples, specific guidance, warnings of what not to do, and a clear prescription of how the whole process of love works. We recommend this to all couples looking for a connecting relationship and to all therapists who want to learn from a master.”
—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D.
Co-authors of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and Making Marriage Simple
“This practical, insightful guide to communication in relationships provides step-by-step instructions to navigate the complexities of relationships with empathy and effectiveness. An excellent book on a challenging topic.”
—Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., ABPP
Author of After the Affair and How Can I Forgive You?
Still not convinced? No problem. Head over to www.thecommunicationbook.com to grab the first two chapters for free!
Honestly, I think there’s a lot to gain here. I want to help Klal Yisrael shore up their marriages and increase shalom bayis all over. I hope this book is a small contribution to that effort.
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