About Us
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Rabbi Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C
Relationships are totally my thing.
People have asked me why I got into marriage counseling. The answer is that I just gravitated to that as I got experience in various areas early in my career. But I think the reason it stuck with me is that more than any of the other stuff I’ve learned about, I really live this.
Sure, I can teach people how to deal with anxiety and stress. And I do okay with that myself – sometimes better, sometimes worse. Trauma is not something I have much of in my life.
But my marriage – that I know I’m doing right. My marriage is the best part of my life. And it’s not because it came easy. We’ve worked at it. A lot. Still do.
I feel like I live what I teach others, in this area more than anywhere. So helping other people in their marriages and in their families, that’s what fills me up. I’d love to help you with yours.
Outside of relationship counseling, I try to do all the things we’re all trying to cover – dad to my four daughters, sleep and exercise when I can, keep up regular learning as much as possible. I love learning different peirushim on chumash and inyanim about lashon hakodesh (I wrote my own book about it! The First Ten Letters: Secrets of the Hebrew Alphabet Hiding in Plain Sight)
Oh, probably worth mentioning I also wrote a book on communication for couples too! The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted)
Rebbetzin Chana Bilek, MS
Everyone has a story. Mine might be a little more unusual than most – it involves being abandoned in a hotel at age 2, international adoption, and two conversions to Judaism – but that’s a story for a different website.
So, I bring a lot of experiences to the table. I’ve had to think a lot about who I am and how I relate to the people in my life. It’s helped me learn a lot about families, relationships, and marriage. And it’s helped me help others in really deep ways.
My journey took me to Eretz Yisrael, where I met my husband and earned my master’s degree in clinical sociology. from the Family Institute at Neve Yerushalayim. I love working with women of all ages to help them achieve clarity in their lives and in their avodah. Being a wife and mother is a huge job! You don't have to blame and shame yourself if you're not where you want to be. I can help coach you to success. (Getting to marriage and motherhood is its own journey - can we talk about shidduchim?)
I'm here to help you through the challenges that we all face in the course of everyday life. I've got some of those myself! I'd love to walk with you down the path towards hatzlacha, dveikus, and simcha!
See more about me at www.chanabilek.com!