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  • Writer's pictureRabbi Raffi Bilek

Getting Your Kids to Eat Their Dinner

Here is another column from the BJH in which I answer the classic question: How do I get my kids to eat their dinner???

Dear BJH,

My kids are really great overall, but the one area that never seems to work out is dinnertime.  They simply don’t want to eat!  It always seems to be a fight getting some food into them.  How can I get them to eat their dinner properly?



Dinnertime is a common flashpoint between parents and kids.  You are not alone!  Let’s take a look at some conceptual points that will help us develop a healthy approach to dinnertime, and then we’ll touch on some practical tips to grease the wheels.

child eating dinner

The solution is to not care if they eat. Really.  If you are genuinely concerned about their nutritional levels, take them to the doctor and get a blood test.  If the doctor says your child is healthy, then there is no problem with their food intake.  If they aren’t hungry for dinner, then they aren’t hungry.  (Do you often eat a meal when you aren’t hungry?  Probably not.)  However: you can and should nonetheless establish rules so that they do not drive you crazy later on in the evening.  That means that dinner should be available for a defined period, not whenever they feel like eating.  If they discover that they are in fact hungry just before bedtime, let them have a piece of bread or matzah – something really plain that will sate their hunger.

What happens when you give up your need for them to eat is one of two things: either they stop feeling the need to resist and start eating, or they continue not to eat because they really aren’t hungry.  Fortunately, nature works in your favor on this one, and eventually, they will be hungry enough to eat (trust me on this one). If you keep junk food out of the house as much as possible (or at least inaccessible), and model healthy eating yourself, then when the cravings strike your children will start eating nutritional foods, which keeps you, them, and the doctor happy.

Vegetable Man

Lastly, make it fun.  A young child who refused to east his or her veggies moments ago might do a complete 180 once s/he sees the little man with funny hair that you created out of carrots and cukes. Some children like to pretend they are eating fantastic items (magic beans, anyone?) or that they themselves are animals of some kind while they eat. Older children may enjoy being a part of the preparation process.  Creativity is key.

This is not an exhaustive list of ways to better manage dinnertime, but I hope it will spark some ideas for you.  Most importantly, keep in mind the pitfall of the power struggle.  When you let go of your need for the children to behave in a certain way – and this is true in many areas – you may find that they will step up to the responsibility quite on their own.

#family #parenting

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