Rabbi Raffi Bilek
One More Day
Another easier-said-than-done tip to help avoid those conflicts that never really needed to happen. To make it easier to do, too – start...
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Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Jan 21, 20141 min
The Gratitude Platitude
This one goes under the “Things We All Know but Don’t Do Enough of” category. #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Dec 29, 20131 min
Whose Turn Is It?
“I took the garbage out yesterday – you do it today.” “I already changed three diapers today, it’s your turn!” “I walked the dog this...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Nov 25, 20131 min
Feel the Burn: Relationship Counseling Exercise
As you may have noticed by now, many of the tips I’ve posted here require a bit of effort on your part. Rarely can you grow as a person...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Nov 6, 20131 min
The Royal "We"
Using “we” when you mean “you” is one great way to leave your partner feeling vaguely resentful and keep negative feelings brewing under...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Oct 31, 20131 min
The Benefit of the Benefit of the Doubt
Here’s a useful example of how Giving the Benefit of the Doubt benefits everybody: #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Oct 9, 20136 min
How to Be Married to a Man – Revealed
Some months ago, you may recall that I posted about the publication of an article of mine in Binah Magazine. Now that the time limit...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Oct 2, 20131 min
A Marriage Counseling Take on Mistakes – Take II
The next logical step in dealing with each others’ mistakes: #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Sep 8, 20131 min
A Marriage Counseling Take on Mistakes
Okay, but what if your significant other is actually really truly wrong? What if they just messed up? THEN what? #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Aug 22, 20131 min
Couples Counseling and the Kitchen Sink
A common problem I deal with when doing marriage counseling is what we in the business call “kitchen sinking.” It’s got little to do with...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Aug 5, 20131 min
Solving the Problem-Solving Problem
Okay, so you get it. You don’t always have to solve the problem! But don’t you sometimes have to solve the problem? How do you know...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Aug 5, 20131 min
Some Problems Don’t Need Solving
Have you ever been in a conversation where one partner starts complaining, and the other one comes up with a brilliant solution – only to...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Jul 23, 20131 min
Then What IS it about?
Note: this post was originally posted AFTER the one above it in the blog. It makes more sense that way, but somehow got messed up and had...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Jul 7, 20131 min
Getting Hurt in a Relationship
A very important note about those little hurts we all experience from time to time. #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Jun 13, 20131 min
What to Expect When You’re Expecting
This is actually not about pregnancy, but I thought it was a catchy title to use. This is about the expectations we have of our...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
May 24, 20131 min
Anger Management
Here’s a useful suggestion for how to handle those high-intensity moments in a more productive way. #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Apr 28, 20131 min
More on Communication
Another handy tip for making relationships work. Check it out. #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Apr 20, 20131 min
Food!
This tip is a winner. One of my favorites. I know that some people disagree with this perspective, but I think it’s pretty useful. Feel...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Apr 3, 20131 min
Fixing Your Relationships
You know those times when your significant other does something particularly irritating? And you point it out, and you are clearly...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Mar 4, 20131 min
You and "I" and Then Some
No doubt you are now an expert at “I” statements, based on my last video. Now take it to the next level with this corollary from your...
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