Rabbi Raffi Bilek
My New Books!
This post is part parenting discussion and part personal plug.
You may recall an older post of mine which linked to an article I wrote for the OU discussing how to influence one’s children towards better behaviors. In it, I cite the obvious principle that lecturing children (especially young children) is a brilliantly ineffective way to do so. Children do not respond to lectures. They respond to visual cues, rhymes and rhythms, modeling, and stories. Thus, when we were facing an issue with my older daughter of her being rather bossy with her friends and her younger sister, rather than try to explain to her why this was problematic, I wrote a little book about it (with the help of Bat-Sheva Kivelevitz, my intrepid illustrator). I can’t tell you that the book was a magical success, but I can tell you that we don’t really have this problem anymore. So it seems to have at least been part of the solution.
Likewise, early on my younger daughter was having trouble sharing. So I wrote a book for her at her level to help her understand how and why to share. Again, I don’t know how much it contributed, but I can tell you that now she is very proactive about sharing.