Rabbi Raffi Bilek
Four Ways to Fight with Your Spouse
Here’s an article I found worth reading, about how to manage fights in your relationship without letting them destroy it. 4 Ways to Fight...
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Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Jul 10, 2014
- 3 min
I Follow My Own Marriage Advice – part II
How did I do it? How did I get mad at my wife (see previous post) and get an apology in return instead of a retaliation? Let’s take a...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Jun 29, 2014
- 2 min
I Follow My Own Marriage Advice
One of the points I often make when talking about marriage is the critical importance of not talking about something that made you...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- May 14, 2014
- 1 min
Ten Tips for Raising Sexually Healthy Orthodox Daughters
And here’s another article sent to me by a friend that address the women’s side of sex ed in the Orthodox community. Also well stated....
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Apr 1, 2014
- 1 min
Pearls of Wisdom
I was talking with a client tonight about his relationship with his wife. In the past we had come up with the idea for him to begin each...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Mar 19, 2014
- 1 min
Think of the Good Things
Look, we all have our imperfections. Our spouses do too. And since it is unlikely that either of you will ever achieve perfection, how...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Mar 9, 2014
- 1 min
Digital Decisions
More on the topic of teenagers and technology – here’s a nifty video created by thatsnotcool.com, which is a great resource for getting...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Feb 9, 2014
- 1 min
One More Day
Another easier-said-than-done tip to help avoid those conflicts that never really needed to happen. To make it easier to do, too – start...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Jan 21, 2014
- 1 min
The Gratitude Platitude
This one goes under the “Things We All Know but Don’t Do Enough of” category. #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Dec 29, 2013
- 1 min
Whose Turn Is It?
“I took the garbage out yesterday – you do it today.” “I already changed three diapers today, it’s your turn!” “I walked the dog this...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Nov 25, 2013
- 1 min
Feel the Burn: Relationship Counseling Exercise
As you may have noticed by now, many of the tips I’ve posted here require a bit of effort on your part. Rarely can you grow as a person...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Nov 13, 2013
- 1 min
Pornography Addiction Revisited
A friend of mine and I were discussing my post on pornography addiction in the Orthodox community and weighing in on the prevalence of...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Nov 6, 2013
- 1 min
The Royal "We"
Using “we” when you mean “you” is one great way to leave your partner feeling vaguely resentful and keep negative feelings brewing under...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Oct 31, 2013
- 1 min
The Benefit of the Benefit of the Doubt
Here’s a useful example of how Giving the Benefit of the Doubt benefits everybody: #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Oct 9, 2013
- 6 min
How to Be Married to a Man – Revealed
Some months ago, you may recall that I posted about the publication of an article of mine in Binah Magazine. Now that the time limit...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Oct 2, 2013
- 1 min
A Marriage Counseling Take on Mistakes – Take II
The next logical step in dealing with each others’ mistakes: #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Sep 24, 2013
- 1 min
Shiur on Shmini Atzeres – Thursday at 5
If you’re going to be in my neck of the woods (that would be Passaic) over Shmini Atzeres and Simchas Torah, I’m going to be giving a...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Sep 8, 2013
- 1 min
A Marriage Counseling Take on Mistakes
Okay, but what if your significant other is actually really truly wrong? What if they just messed up? THEN what? #marriage #relationships
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Aug 22, 2013
- 1 min
Couples Counseling and the Kitchen Sink
A common problem I deal with when doing marriage counseling is what we in the business call “kitchen sinking.” It’s got little to do with...
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Aug 5, 2013
- 1 min
Solving the Problem-Solving Problem
Okay, so you get it. You don’t always have to solve the problem! But don’t you sometimes have to solve the problem? How do you know...
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