Tonight he confessed that they really hadn’t kept this up, despite finding it a really beneficial practice. He said now that things between them are better, it seemed like the practice wasn’t needed. And this elicited from me the following Pearl of Wisdom:
It is much less expensive to maintain a car than it is to repair it.
That is to say, it’s hard work implementing new practices to fix a broken relationship. Very hard work. It is significantly less work – although not by any means no work – to maintain one. Spending five minutes a day in quiet togetherness is much easier to pull off when there is no tension between the two parties than when both are upset and irritated with each other. Hence, I recommended that they push themselves to keep up with this practice even though, and in fact because, things have been so good between them.
Remember, it is much less expensive to maintain a relationship than it is to repair it.